Mothers, bless them, for without them we would not have known or learn about unconditional love. It’s hard work being a mother; in fact, they are real-life superheroes. But alas, mothers are human and just like any, have issues and concerns. Below are five of the most common ones.
Fatigue is perhaps the most common among mothers. Whether you’re a new mother or someone who’s been at it for years, the level of fatigue of having to raise and run a family is incomparable. If you’re a working mom, one couldn’t even second-guess even if they tried, the overwhelming exhaustion that you go through.
A change of diet and incorporating stress-relieving activities like yoga may help but to find the time to do them is the real challenge. Nonetheless, you should. Even 5-15 minutes of simple yoga and deep breathing exercises will help in the long run.
Being self-conscious can be a double-edged sword. On the one hand, it can help you be a better person but the downside, which happens more frequently, it can make you feel worthless. Mothers are women, and every woman deserves to look and feel beautiful, but the chores of motherhood often leave them with little time for themselves.
But think about this, you should always first and foremost take care of yourselves before even attempting to care for others. So take that time out for a manicure, a quick shopping trip or even a spa treatment. It will rejuvenate your wellbeing, and you’ll realise how that translates positively into your capabilities to be a more wholesome, reinvigorated and inspiring mother! As for food, dump the unhealthy eating habits and whip up healthy recipes in the kitchen. It's not only good for you but also for the whole family.
Mental fatigue is another real issue, and it often stems from having to worry too much. Being a mother is a 24/7 responsibility, and no matter how old your child is, you just can’t help worrying over even the tiniest of things. Don’t worry (sic); it’s you being concerned.
What you should do is to learn to let go at times. Being human, you may have made mistakes as a mother, but dwelling on them won’t make anything better. No matter how old we are, we are always constantly learning mainly from our mistakes and shortcomings. Learn to trust in your capabilities as a mother and also in your child. Develop a communication line between the two of you, and you’ll soon realise that it will help deal with your worries – be it unfounded or otherwise, and strengthen that precious bond.
Nobody is perfect so get that into your head. Don’t fret over things that could’ve been done differently or put unnecessary stress on yourself just to be the perfect mother. As mentioned, trust in your abilities and do the best that you can.
Every mom wants to be the perfect role model for her child, and no one faults them for that. But in reality, it’s not about being perfect – it’s about being a mother. Lead by example, and it can't be said enough, just do the best that you can. If you need help, learn to reach out.
When you’re overwhelmed, self-doubt often creeps in. You’ll be plagued by the “what ifs” and “if only”. Well, stop! You may feel that you’re not doing enough but what is enough anyway? A mother’s job can never be “enough” because if it so that means, you’re done! But that doesn’t mean that you’re always lacking.
A child, above all, needs love. If you are too preoccupied thinking about how you could’ve done things better, chances are, you are denying your child of love. You’ve done an amazing job bringing a life into this world and doing what you can to raise that precious life. Pat yourself on the back and enjoy the many moments you will have as a mother. Wallowing in self-doubt doesn't stop time or turn it back. What matters is the present. You are special, and no one can take that away from you.
No one said being a mother is going to be easy, but then again, no one said it’s going to be an impossible task. Enjoy motherhood because it is one of life’s beautiful moments. To all the mothers out there, stay beautiful and amazing!